Thursday, February 26, 2009
Home executive advice
From the Common Room, this is an excellent post. I'm so glad she put it up. SO glad It is very important that we realize that "what I'm supposed to do" is based on expectations of other people who don't live in your body or your house. Remember, you are supposed to do what's right for YOU and your family! Not what it says in Parenting Magazine. Enjoy!!
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Wow, does that post ever sound familiar!
ReplyDeleteIt feels really good to read another person writing something I've preached over and over to DH while he was homemaking. I think I'll try and call his attention to it sometime - if he doesn't realize I'm aiming the information at him and just thinks I'm sharing something of interest, maybe he'll accept the outside authority and BELIEVE that good enough *is* good enough.
But I really do think that temperament plays a big role in this, too. DH's temperament is one that likes rules and traditions, and that's a rough temperament to have in a world and family where rebellion against tradition *is* the tradition (his parents were hippies). I honestly think he's one of those parents who really does need a curriculum or plan for parenting just so he can feel confident that he's getting the bare minimum covered. Even in preschool. When I started laying out a single planned activity for him each day last December, he totally perked up and started doing better across the board. It's like he suddenly had a checklist to compare himself to, and now that he knew what "enough" looked like, he could relax and enjoy the rest of it.
Meh, I have temperamental "tricks", too. If that extra structure helps him and makes him happier, more power to him (and it). If I go back to work, I think we're going to find a curriculum for him to work with so I don't have to stress out over planning at all.